Egg Donor Expectations….What’s Reasonable and What Is Not

Egg Donor Expectations….What’s Reasonable and What Is Not

When going into an egg donor arrangement, particularly through an agency, recipient parents have many expectations of donor performance, some reasonable, some not so reasonable. Of course, recipients expect that a donor will be compliant with clinic orders, that she will show up to her appointments on time, that she will take her medications as prescribed, that she will abstain or refrain from...

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Considering Egg Donation?

Considering Egg Donation?

When a prospective parent contacts me for egg donor related discussion, typically, the three things I am most often asked about is how long, how much and how successful. Whether the client has had a long and exhausting fertility journey or is just embarking on family building, folks want to get pregnant, they want to get pregnant now and they want to do so while feeling that costs can be...

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What is Egg Donation

What is Egg Donation

What is Egg Donation? Egg donation is a complex but beautiful and altruistic collaborative effort by which recipient parents rely on the harvested oocytes of a donor to conceive and hopefully, successfully build a family. The American Society of Reproductive Medicine describes egg donation as the process by which “an egg from a fertile woman is donated to an infertile woman to be used in an...

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On the Bookshelf: The Hope & Will Children’s Book Series

On the Bookshelf: The Hope & Will Children’s Book Series

When meeting with prospective parents about family building through either egg or embryo donation the matter of when, if and how to disclose to their child his or her story of conception often comes up. While I am not a mental health professional (and always refer my clients to colleagues with expertise on this very sensitive topic), I do feel comfortable and confident in recommending resources,...

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Feelings of Motherhood

Someone posted a query on facebook the other day asking whether or not a woman who had conceived several times but then suffered a loss with each pregnancy could still be considered a mother. An interesting question, I thought, with so many different ways to go about answering. From a legal perspective, of course, the answer would be no, from a medical perspective, same answer. I can’t even...

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From Inside The Agency

From Inside The Agency

Egg donation, egg donation, egg donation…whether I am speaking in a private meeting with individual clients or whether I am addressing a larger audience on assisted family building, the first thing I acknowledge is the many moving parts prospective parents have to grab hold of, I know that the complexities of donor egg can be overwhelming. Before I address donor selection (I do have some...

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Why Your Egg Donation Agreement Should Also Address Excess Embryos

Why Your Egg Donation Agreement Should Also Address Excess Embryos

When I ask prospective parents who are hoping for a successful egg donation cycle to look ahead to having completed their family and then having to deal with excess embryos, I know I am asking what may seem like too much…it turns out, really, I’m not. Many recipients of donor eggs will end up having to make decisions about the disposition of excess (or as I like to say “residual”)...

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Let’s Talk About Genetic Half-Sibs

Let’s Talk About Genetic Half-Sibs

Let’s talk about egg donor conceived children and the very real expectation that a child whose parents relied on an egg donor for family building is likely to have a significant number of genetically related half-siblings. Let’s talk about what we can be doing, as professionals, to learn from sperm-donor conceived children. How can we better our policies and practices with respect to these...

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Choosing a Donor

Choosing a Donor

In the summer of 2008, a young woman called needing assistance in finding her ideal egg donor. The woman was in her mid-thirties, her husband not much older. The diagnosis was Premature Ovarian Failure. The woman had very specific and quite detailed criteria, she would settle for nothing less than a donor who offered all of the characteristics she deemed as “must-haves”; the list was long....

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Choosing an Agency

Choosing an Agency

What do I need to know about egg donation agencies? Egg Donation agencies are independent service providers that prospective parents planning for an egg donation cycle contact for both donor identification and cycle management services. It is important for recipient parents to understand that currently there are few regulations around practices related to the operations of an egg donation agency....

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Considering Egg Donation?

Considering Egg Donation?

When a prospective parent contacts me for egg donor related discussion, typically, the three things I am most often asked about is how long, how much and how successful. Whether the client has had a long and exhausting fertility journey or is just embarking on family building, folks want to get pregnant, they want to get pregnant now and they want to do so while feeling that costs can be...

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Donor Selection: On the Path to Parenthood

Donor Selection: On the Path to Parenthood

In the summer of 2008, a young woman called needing assistance in finding her ideal egg donor. The woman was in her mid-thirties, her husband not much older. The diagnosis was Premature Ovarian Failure. The woman had very specific and quite detailed criteria, she would settle for nothing less than a donor who offered all of the characteristics she deemed as “must-haves”; the list was long....

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How Recipient Parents Might View Donor Compensation

How Recipient Parents Might View Donor Compensation

Some time ago, I read a beautifully written and perfectly balanced essay on donor compensation, that essay sits on the cork board in my office, you can find it at this link: http://www.docshop.com/2007/11/13/miracle-or-madness-the-light-and-dark-sides-of-donating-eggs-for-money/. Often when clients first contact me they are concerned, perhaps even worried about the costs of family building...

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Thinking About Contact With Your Anonymous Donor?

Recently, I was contacted by a recipient mom who needed to connect with her otherwise anonymous egg donor because her pediatrician (she and her husband were blessed with a successful egg donation cycle and a beautiful baby girl!) had a few questions regarding the donor’s history of allergies. I will tell you that it has been a number of years since I have received such a call and that in my...

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The High-Paid Donor and Baby Making Success

The High-Paid Donor and Baby Making Success

In the January 25th, 2009 edition of The Boston Herald, a side-bar to two articles for which I was interviewed discussed a West Coast couple advertising at MIT for an egg donor, offering prospective candidates $35,000.00 in compensation. I am not sure where to begin my commentary on this couple’s determination to recruit a “genius Asian egg donor” with the promise of compensation that far...

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